filan\u2026. Ve sonras\u0131nda sinirden k\u00fcplere biniyor ve en sonunda k\u00f6pr\u00fcleri yak\u0131yoruz. \u0130yi de
yap\u0131yoruz da!?\u2026.. Gelin, bir de onlar\u0131n yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f amac\u0131na \u00e7ok dokunmadan, yarad\u0131l\u0131\u015flar\u0131na bir
bakal\u0131m! Tabii, yine belli bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm i\u00e7in konu\u015fuyoruz, l\u00fctfen herkes \u00fczerine al\u0131nmas\u0131n!
Te\u015fekk\u00fcrler!
Erkek, hayat\u0131, uzun-ince bir yol olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr. \u00d6yle bir yol ki, birbiri ard\u0131 s\u0131ra, kafeler,
pastaneler, f\u0131r\u0131nlar ve kim bilir belki restoranlar. D\u00fcnyaya geli\u015fi de, ana f\u0131r\u0131n taraf\u0131ndan
ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilen erkek, \u00e7ocuklu\u011fu boyunca oyaland\u0131\u011f\u0131, s\u0131\u011f\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve sar\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 ana f\u0131r\u0131ndan, g\u00fcn\u00fc
gelince ayr\u0131l\u0131r ve ba\u015flar bu yolda a\u011f\u0131r a\u011f\u0131r ilerlemeye\u2026\u2026
Baz\u0131 insan \u00e7ok geli\u015fkindir, kendini erken bilendir ve ne istedi\u011fini tahmin edebilendir. Ve daha
yolun ba\u015f\u0131nda, \u201ci\u015fte bu benim istedi\u011fim” der ve kap\u0131dan i\u00e7eri girer. Bu se\u00e7iminde, onu gelecek
anlam\u0131nda bir ka\u00e7 se\u00e7enek bekler; ya \u00e7ok tutucudur, se\u00e7iminden memnun olsun olmas\u0131n,
kal\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r, \u0131srarc\u0131d\u0131r; ya \u00e7ok tutunmazd\u0131r, se\u00e7imi g\u00fcn ge\u00e7tik\u00e7e can\u0131n\u0131 s\u0131kar, girdi\u011fi kafenin her
\u015feyini tatm\u0131\u015f, ezberlemi\u015f ve bo\u011faz\u0131na kadar doymu\u015ftur ve hatta kendince patlamak \u00fczeredir ve
ister istemez art\u0131k gitmek ister. Bu erken davranan ve doygun adam, ya ger\u00e7ekten doymu\u015ftur
ve hava almaya ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r ya da ilk se\u00e7iminin \u00fcr\u00fcnleri, belli bir s\u00fcre sonra gaz yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan
\u015fi\u015fmi\u015ftir, ger\u00e7ekte hala a\u00e7t\u0131r, karn\u0131 olmasa bile, g\u00f6z\u00fc g\u00f6nl\u00fc a\u00e7t\u0131r ve bu erkeklerin \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fu ise
hi\u00e7 bir zaman doymaz doyamaz, d\u00fcnyadaki t\u00fcm kafeleri dola\u015fsa, t\u00fcm \u00e7e\u015fitlerini tatsa, yine de
doydu\u011funa ikna olmaz t\u00fcrdendir\u2026..geri kalanlar ise, ger\u00e7ekten de, ba\u015ftaki se\u00e7iminin yanl\u0131\u015f
oldu\u011funu, istedi\u011fi kafenin ve \u00fcr\u00fcnlerin nas\u0131l olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini bilenler, ki daha bilin\u00e7lidirler,
bulunduklar\u0131 yerden \u00e7\u0131kmak isterler\u2026\u2026ancak, o zamanda, \u015fartlar devreye girer ve erkek
cebindekine bakar, bakal\u0131m buradaki hesab\u0131 kapat\u0131p, yeni bir kafeye ad\u0131m atacak g\u00fcc\u00fc var
m\u0131d\u0131r; tabii ki maddi g\u00fc\u00e7ten bahsediyorum, yoksa fiziksel g\u00fc\u00e7, sahip olduklar\u0131 asil kanda
bolcad\u0131r. Diyelim, g\u00fcc\u00fc yetti, kendini d\u0131\u015far\u0131 att\u0131, ger\u00e7ekten t\u00fcm samimiyeti ile, g\u00f6nl\u00fcnce, yeni
bir kafe ve istedi\u011fi \u00fcr\u00fcnleri aramaya, beklemeye ba\u015flar. Ama ararken ne yapacak, a\u00e7 oturacak,
illa falanca yerin, zencefilli \u00e7\u00f6re\u011fini yiyece\u011fim diye, a\u00e7l\u0131ktan \u00f6l\u00fcp gidecek de\u011fil ya\u2026. oradan
buradan at\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r, bazen \u00e7ok, bazen az\u2026. Se\u00e7ici olan, dikkatli ve temkinli olan, se\u00e7imini usul\u00fcnce
yaparken, bilgisiz ve tecr\u00fcbesiz olan ise, ne id\u00fc\u011f\u00fc belirsiz \u015feylerle, ya ba\u011f\u0131rsaklar\u0131n\u0131 bozar ya
da abur cuburla beslenme al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 y\u00fcz\u00fcnden, g\u00fcn gelir, ne i\u00e7in yola \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, arad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fey
kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na \u00e7\u0131ksa bile hat\u0131rlayamaz ve haybeye gider onca \u00e7abas\u0131, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131\u2026\u2026ve maalesef
baz\u0131lar\u0131, belki ihtiya\u00e7tan, belki yanl\u0131\u015f arkada\u015f se\u00e7iminin do\u011fal sonucu olarak, belki
psikolojilerinin giderek bozulmas\u0131 y\u00fcz\u00fcnden, \u00e7\u00f6p kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmaya ba\u015flar ve art\u0131k \u00e7\u00f6pte o g\u00fcn ne
varsa\u2026\u015fans\u0131na ya\u015farlar. Baz\u0131 adamlar ise, bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc karar m\u0131 veremez, ne istedi\u011fini mi bilmez,
yoksa \u00e7ok ak\u0131ll\u0131d\u0131r da, madem ayaklar\u0131mda g\u00fc\u00e7, cebimde para, akl\u0131mda ba\u015f\u0131mda, gezip
dola\u015fay\u0131m g\u00f6nl\u00fcmce \u015f\u00f6yle der, o kafe senin, bu kafe benim dola\u015f\u0131r\u2026..derken bollukta olmaktan,
bo\u015flukta durmaktan bunal\u0131r, bulan\u0131r, bir s\u00fcre sonrada al\u0131kla\u015f\u0131r. Bu t\u00fcrlerin, hem ilk f\u0131r\u0131n\u0131ndan
vazge\u00e7meyen hem de yeni, farkl\u0131 t\u00fcm kafelerde g\u00f6z\u00fc olanlar\u0131 da vard\u0131r; onlar\u0131n temel d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi
de \u015fudur=tamam ba\u015fta bir se\u00e7im yapt\u0131m\u2026.ee \u00fcr\u00fcnlerde fena de\u011fil, eee \u00e7oluk \u00e7ocuk dolu\u015ftuk,
rahat\u0131m\u0131z yerinde\u2026.ama\u2026.iyi de can\u0131m, hayata da bir kere geliniyor, ne yapal\u0131m \u015fimdi, hep ayn\u0131
\u015feyleri yiyerek \u00f6mr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc bir kafede mi ge\u00e7irelim\u2026\u2026\u2026. I-\u0131\u0131\u0131\u0131\u0131h! Ya ne yapal\u0131m? D\u0131\u015far\u0131
al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fe, i\u015fe g\u00fcce gidince, belki bazen sipari\u015f usul\u00fc, bazen e\u015f-dost-arkada\u015f kutlamas\u0131yla,
at\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmal\u0131\u2026..eh doyumluk olmasa da tad\u0131ml\u0131k olsun\u2026.nasiplenmeden bu \u00f6l\u00fcml\u00fc d\u00fcnyadan
kaymamal\u0131= der. Bu durumda erke\u011fin yapmas\u0131 gerekenler \u015f\u00f6yledir, ne zaman, nerede ve ne
at\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kesinlikle gizlemek, her \u015fey bitince, en az\u0131ndan tok oldu\u011funu belli etmemek,
normal hayat\u0131n seyrini takip etmek, f\u0131rsat\u0131n\u0131 bulunca, tatmaya devam etmek ama ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 olma,
abart\u0131ya ka\u00e7ma, ba\u011flan\u0131p kalma gibi mide-ba\u011f\u0131rsak enfeksiyonlar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 uyan\u0131k ve tedbirli
olmak.
\u0130\u015fte! Hayat, erkekler i\u00e7in b\u00f6yle sevgili bayanlar, onlar, olmak veya tatmak istedikleri \u015fey i\u00e7in
kolayca, sorunsuz bir yol bulup, bunu hayat\u0131n gidi\u015fine yorduklar\u0131 halde\u2026. Biz, diyelim ki, e\u015fitiz,
diyelim ki ayn\u0131 yoldan ge\u00e7tik\u2026\u2026kad\u0131n olman\u0131n verdi\u011fi a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131kla\u2026.biz de se\u00e7tik\u2026..ama biz,
dedi\u011fim dedik, sevdi\u011fim tek mant\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile, daha masas\u0131, sandalyesini b\u0131rak, oturacak yer minderi
bile olmayan, tek \u00e7e\u015fit yeme\u011fi, yemekhane kalitesi ve servisi ile sunan, hatta sunmayan, senin
yalvar yakar tatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n ve nihayetinde onca y\u0131ll\u0131k beraberlikte yetersiz beslenmeden \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fcp
gitti\u011fin, bazen de, binbir \u00e7e\u015fit \u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fc olup da, senin bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc haberinin olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131, senden ba\u015fka
herkesin hayran kald\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve yine yeni yeniden tatmak istedi\u011fi\u2026\u2026ve senin bunu belki bilerek,
belki
bilmeyerek,
sineye
\u00e7ekip,
ben
sevdim,
ben
se\u00e7tim,
de
benim\u2026.dedi\u011fin\u2026.se\u00e7imimizde sabitlendik, kenetlenip\u2026.m\u00fch\u00fcrlendik!! Maalesef birbirine
tezat iki hayat g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fc, dahas\u0131 hayat se\u00e7imi erke\u011fin ve kad\u0131n\u0131n ki\u2026\u2026..haberimiz ola!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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